Q. I’m not baptised. I don’t go to church. Can I still get married in church?
A. Yes you can.
Q. Can I get married at Christ Church?
Hopefully yes! If you have the right sort of connection with us then you can married in the church – so if you or your partner live in our area (parish) then you can (see www.achurchnearyou.com to be sure). Best thing to do is get in touch with us so we can have a chat!
Q. How do I book the church for a wedding?
A. It’s pretty easy. Get in touch with us and arrange to see our Community Missioner. We’ll book a time to meet with you and begin to discuss and plan the wedding. Booking the church for your particular date is all part of that conversation.
Q. We’ve decided to get married abroad but we would like a church blessing. Is that possible?
A. Yes. There is a service called ‘Prayer and dedication after a civil ceremony’ and this can be adapted for your use. There are no legal requirements for this service.
Q. I’m divorced. Can I still get married in church?
A. Yes, divorced people can remarry in church at Christ Church under certain circumstances.
In the Church of England, we believe that marriage is for life, but we also recognise that sadly, some marriages do fail and that it’s important to recognise that and respond to it as appropriate. Each case is different and circumstances are always unique so the important next step is to speak to our Community Missioner about your situation.
Q. What is ‘marriage preparation’ and why do we need it?
A. You will never make such big promises to each other as you will in church on your wedding day. You are still two separate individuals with different backgrounds, personalities, experiences, hopes and fears. As two become one in marriage, the road isn’t always easy and it’s important to think about important issues you may face and prepare for them together. Marriage is a serious commitment and opportunity is available to talk through the big issues, sometimes as a group with other couples, if you would like to do so. Our Community Missioner will be able to discuss the options with you when you meet with her.
Q. How much will it cost?
A. Fees for weddings are set nationally so that the same basic fees apply whichever church you get married in. However, there are some variations – usually dependent on your circumstances and what you want in your service (e.g. an organist or a choir) and also what licences to marry apply. We will make sure you know the costs involved early on.
Q. I am getting married elsewhere and the vicar there says I need my banns read here, what do I do?
A. First check that one of you live in our parish. Go to www.achurchnearyou.com and enter your postcode. Then there is a form you need to complete. You can download and print it, or contact us for a copy. The form needs to be returned to the church (there’s a letter box on the wall of the church hall). There is a nationally agreed charge for reading banns and we will let you know how to pay that when we have your form. We will contact you to agree when they will be read (which will be no more than three months before your wedding), and we would be delighted to you welcome you to the church to hear them.